XXXERCISE ANYONE???
Hey ladies, I'm starting this thread because I have been one of those girls who in the past at times felt like sex was something that was an obligation, something that was taken from me and something that I felt like as a mother I couldn't enjoy like I should, WTF???? I know I'm not alone and am turning things around in my bedroom.
So let's discuss sex and our wierd womanly issues. Our husbands, our hormones and our lives will be better for it!!!
So I'll start. My biggest hangup post babies was I felt like everyone was sucking the life out of me including my husband and his need for sex. Of course that is his only way of showing his love for me (men are from mars, I know, I know). So my question is, my hangup with feeling like sex is for someone else??? Not sure where that came from (thanks mom I know it was you lol) but I'm turning things around and realizing that I need sex, I want sex and dang it, this IUD and depression medication aren't going to stop me from getting some!!!!
"Yes, I can do hard things."Kim
You go girl!!
And for us single girls...why is it that if we have casual sex we're coined sluts, but if men have casual sex they're coined pimps and praised for it. It's a contradiction; men and women should be treated as equals around the board, including casual sex. If a girl wants some, she should be able to get some without worrying what others will be saying or thinking of her.
amen sho! We are plagued with the double standard. My hats off to self confidant women who do/get what they want.
I fear that many women lack self confidance and feel that if they "give in" to men they will be liked; that breaks my heart.
Hi girls,
I would bring up moral issues. In reality the laws of God are the same for men, and women.
Sex is a gift from God for people who are married to eachother.
For centuries, mostly becuase of religion, sex was nothing more than a necessary evil, and it benefitted men. The one good thing about the sexual revolution of the 70's, that I lived through, it was learned that women had sexual need, too, and we can like sex.
I spent years teaching my hubby how to please me. And I made sure he was very pleased, too. unfortunately, now he is getting old, and losing his sex drive, much faster than me.
All this working put has served to keep my sex drive up. I still rag on him to exercize. I just got done via long distance.
Go for it, Kimmie
Lauras, I must say, although we may be unpopular these days, I agree with you. Props for speaking the truth.
In Natasha Turners book The Hormone Diet she dedicates a chapter talking about the advantages physiologically and psychologically of sex. It's a great read and would motivate any woman!!!
Ladies, I do agree with your opinions as I learned the hard way that sex is something not to be shared freely and can be taken from you against your will. However this thread should be named safada which in portugese means no shame. The majority of women are somewhat ashamed by their bodies and sexuality. Some women have had lifetimes of negative ideas about sex and what sex means due to religious reasons, parenting or being the victims of sexual assaults. So I would rather see us empowering women to enjoy the benefits of sex in their marriages, with their partners instead of making anyone feel shameful about their decisions based on more opinions. I hope you can understand the reason for this thread.
"Yes, I can do hard things."
I agree with the idea that as women, so many of us have been taught to hate our bodies, and our sexuality. My desire is not to make anyone feel ashamed of their desires, and decisions. I must speak the truth, however, even if it is not popular. Each of us has the right to our own feelings, and we should all kep that in mind.
Blessings
go ahead,i like it~
Speaking of all this stuff, I have a question. My husband mentioned once that Major Athletes are told not to have sex during Performance Season (or whatever, my brain is telling me nap time now), so I also figure if it's true it would go the same for Fitness Athletes, so Sho you have probably heard of this rumor. Is any of it true? Because another thing that baffles me is that athletes are also the ones you always hear in cheating scandals (males), so if they are expected to keep it in their pants, how are they going out and being unfaithful to their partners? I just thought I'd bring that question up in this subject and poke at it a bit.
I have only had sex with one boyfriend. I honestly feel i need a deeper bond with someone before I can take it to that level. I don't know if its because I maybe I have a lower sex drive or because of the values my parents raised me with? Either way I am happy not sleeping with the guys I date. I see how easily my friends get attached and hurt when they have sex with someone too early on in a relationship
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